Monday, April 13, 2009

Should I date A Younger Woman




Now that I am back on the dating scene, I'm noticing that I am interested in meeting women who are about 10 years younger than me. Women who are my age (early forties) seem to be too old for me and actually make me feel older. I find that when I am with younger women, we tend to have a lot more in common in terms of doing things and being active.

I guess women who are in their 40's most likely have kids and ex-husbands to deal with which makes their schedule conflict with mine. Younger women who have not been married and have no children have more time available for dating, at least that's my experience so far.

So getting back to my original question "should I date a younger woman" my answer would have to be, "sure, why not!"

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Impress Your Date With Humor




One thing I've learned is that if you want to make a good impression on a woman, it is not necessary to dazzle her with how much money you may have or how successful you are. Most women tend to get turned off by a guy who brags about himself. What really impresses a woman is confidence and the ability to make her laugh. We'll talk about confidence in a future post but for now I'd like to go over why humor is an excellent way to get any woman to want to be with you.

Lets face it, we all want to feel good which is why we unconsciously tend to gravitate towards individuals who make us feel alive, happy and vibrant. The way to make any woman feel that way is by using humor. We all like to laugh because it gives us a feeling of well being and it also has been proven scientifically that laughter is healthy for us because it strengthens the immune system.

If you can make a woman laugh, you can be sure that she will not only find you very attractive but she will also find herself wanting to be with. So the next time you're out on a date remember to use a little humor and you'll find that the woman you are with will not only have a good time but she will also be smiling at you all night long.

Monday, March 30, 2009

Disaster Strikes!




All I can say is what a disaster. We met over the weekend and I was very disappointed because she was not what I expected. On the phone she sounded like a sweet woman with a shyness to her which I found attractive. When we met in person the image I had of her in my mind did not match with the person standing before me. That shyness was no longer present and she seemed to have mannerisms that were a total turn off.

Her laugh seemed to sound like a loud bark and I noticed she moved her hands excessively while speaking to me. I found this quite annoying. Needless to say the chemistry was not there and I was very disappointed but also somewhat in disbelief. How can my image of her have been so wrong?

The date lasted for about 2 hours. All we did was sit and talk over coffee and afterwards we went for a walk which is when I noticed how loud her laugh really was. It was not only annoying but very irritating to say the least.

Obviously I am not interested in meeting this person again but at the same time I don't want to hurt her feelings. She really is a nice individual but not what I'm looking for. So now I have to figure out a way to break it to her gently because the last thing I would want to do is hurt her.

Friday, March 27, 2009

Preparing For The Big Weekend



As you know I've been interacting with a woman that I met from an online dating site and we both finally decided to meet each other this weekend. We've been talking for several weeks and it appears that we both have many things in common. Things such as we both enjoy nature, hiking, the water, boating...etc

I'm a little nervous about meeting her in person for the first time because I'm afraid she may not be all that I expect her to be. Or even worse, maybe I'm not what she was expecting! We've spoken on the phone quite frequently so I know she has the kind of personality that is compatible with my own. The thing that concerns me is the physical aspect. What if we are not physically attracted to each other. I've seen her pictures and she appears to be nice looking but until I see her in person I'm not going to allow myself to fall for her.

We plan on meeting for some coffee (even though I'm not a coffee drinker) and afterwards we'll go for a walk in a park that is near where she lives. If all goes well, we will then plan an actual date and go to dinner etc.

I'll post about my experience next week. Hopefully we will both like each other but that still remains to be seen.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

How To Write An Effective Dating Profile




Having a quality dating profile is extremely important if your goal is to meet people on a dating site. After some trial and error I've learned a few dating tips to help create what I consider to be an effective dating profile so lets get started.

List your hobbies
The first thing you want to include in your profile are the things you are interested in. Spend a few minutes writing about the things you enjoy doing such as: watching movies, boating, camping, dancing, cooking etc. By including such interests you increase your chances of attracting someone who is compatible with you in terms of hobbies and interests.

Upload A Several Photos
Be sure to upload several pictures of yourself as this will increase your chances of other members interacting with you. It has been proven time and time again that profiles with pictures get more responses than profiles without. If you think about it, this makes a lot of sense. Most people like to see who they are writing to before they meet them in person. so be sure to upload a few photos of yourself.

Try a little humor
Humor is a very effective tool to use to make your online dating profile interesting as well as enjoyable to read. Nobody wants to read a profile that is filled with complaints and negativity. Instead be positive and try adding a little humor and I can guarantee that the people reading your profile will instantly be attracted to you and interested in knowing more about you.

What are you looking for
No profile would be complete without writing about what you are looking for. Some people are only interested in meeting someone for a casual relationship while others are looking for something a little bit more serious maybe even leading to marriage. It is very important to write what your intentions are in your profile if your goal is to meet someone compatible with you.

So there you have it, 4 basic tips to help you get the ball rolling. I think by including the above suggestions in your dating profile, you will soon discover that writing an effective profile is not that difficult. All it takes a few moments of your time writing about the most important person in the world, and that is yourself.


Tuesday, March 24, 2009

What Internet Dating Means To Me




Internet dating is one of the most popular ways for men and women to meet each other and we all have friends who have met someone using an online dating site. When I was younger we didn't have the internet so personal ads in the newspapers or magazines were popular with individuals who didn't want to frequent the bars or clubs. Today things have changed and the internet is the ideal way for men and women to find each other.

Now that I am single after being in a 10 year marriage, I find myself uncomfortable visiting the bars because I am somewhat older than most of the people there. For me internet dating seems to be the perfect solution because it allows me to interact with women closer to my own age from the comfort and privacy of my own home.
So far I've met two women online that I find interesting and I do plan on meeting them in person. One woman lives about 3 hours aways from me which makes it kind of difficult to get together but we're working on it. The other woman works the night shift so as soon as we can get our schedules in sync I plan on taking her out.

So far my experience with internet dating has been positive and quite entertaining but until I actually meet these two ladies in person, the jury is still out!

Friday, March 20, 2009

Adult Dating Sites - Are They For You




Adult dating sites differ from traditional dating sites in that they are aimed at individuals who are looking for sexual relationships. No need to beat around the bush on an adult dating site because everyone is there for the same reason and that is to meet someone for a sexual encounter. Sometimes these relationships may be long-term in nature but for many people these relationships may be nothing more than a casual short-term fling.

Profiles on an adult dating site will usually contain information describing the person's physical attributes rather than their hobbies and goals. It's not uncommon for men and women to write about their measurements as well as what they are looking in terms of sexual preferences.

One thing to keep in mind is that many of these websites cater to specific categories which makes finding what you are looking for that much more likely. Categories range from lesbian dating to swingers...the list is endless.

My personal experience with adult dating sites so far has been positive and I must admit quite enjoyable!